Let's Talk About Mental Health in University

I want to preface this by saying I'm not a mental health professional—I'm a student who happens to study psychology. But that perspective has given me some insights I want to share.

The Pressure Cooker

University is stressful. Like, really stressful. And somehow there's this unspoken expectation that we should handle it all gracefully while also having an active social life, impressive extracurriculars, and a clear career path figured out.

That's... a lot. And it's okay to admit it's a lot.

What I've Learned from My Studies

Studying psychology has given me language for things I was already experiencing. Terms like "cognitive distortions" and "catastrophizing" suddenly made me realize I was doing these things to myself all the time.

Some common thought patterns I've learned to recognize:

All-or-nothing thinking: "If I don't get an A, I'm a failure"
Mind reading: "Everyone in this class thinks I'm dumb"
Catastrophizing: "If I mess up this presentation, my entire future is ruined"

Recognizing these patterns doesn't make them go away automatically, but it does create a little distance. I can catch myself and think, "Okay, that's catastrophizing. What's a more realistic view?"

Things That Have Helped Me

1. Therapy

I'm a big believer in therapy, even when you're not in crisis. Having a space to process things with a professional has been valuable. Many universities offer counseling services—use them.

2. Boundaries

I've learned to say no to things. Not everything, not perfectly, but more than I used to. Protecting my energy is not selfish; it's necessary.

3. Connection

Ironically, when I'm most stressed, my instinct is to isolate. But I've learned that connection—even just texting a friend or studying with others—makes a real difference.

4. Self-Compassion

This is probably the biggest one. I used to think being hard on myself was motivating. The research suggests otherwise. Self-compassion is actually linked to better outcomes, more resilience, and less burnout.

A Note to Fellow Students

If you're struggling, you're not alone. And struggling doesn't mean you're weak or doing it wrong. It means you're human, navigating a genuinely challenging experience.

Reach out. Talk to someone. And be gentle with yourself. We're all figuring this out together.